Desensitize Yourself Towards It
The concept of desensitizing yourself can work for anything in your life that scares you. This could be public speaking, trying out a new hobby or in this case rejection. Quite simply the body and mind are adaptive. As is the case with weightlifting i.e. the heavier weight your force your body to carry the bigger your muscles get as an adaptive response. In a similar way; the more you expose your mind to situations that would typically scare you; the more normalized such situations become. According to this article on desensitization; 3 steps can be followed to desensitize yourself to things that cause you anxiety:
- Create an anxiety hierarchy – develop in ascending order the degrees of severity of the situations that scare you
- Deep muscle relaxation – train your mind to be in a relaxed state
- Desensitization sessions – practice visualizing the situations that scare you until you don’t feel any further anxiety.
Don’t Take Things Personally
This is easier said than done. However a part of mental toughness boils down to how firmly your hold on to your internal values. The stronger your adherence to your prescribed values are, the more internally validated you become. The result is that you stop being responsive to the noise around you. What people say to you gets filtered through your own value system before you actually start believing it. The result is that you become a badass force to be reckoned with.
Work On Your Values
As mentioned above; the key to being firmly internally validated stems from your creation of a strong value system. When you life is centered around external things like relationships, your career or even your religion – you will be in a state of depression when things start unravelling out of control in these specific areas – quite simply they are out of your control. If you have a value system however; you will always be in a state of calm because regardless of how things are changing around you – your values are the one thing that remains constant.
Have The Abundance Mentality
The abundance mentality is one of the best perspectives you can acquire. It means being able to see your own self worth and therefore believing within yourself that you will always have options. Whether this is career options or relationship options – the abundance mentality means being okay if one thing doesn’t work out. This is a great way for overcoming fear of rejection because it teaches you that it is okay if someone says no – there will always be more better opportunities waiting around the corner.
Work On Your Confidence
Another way to overcome fear of rejection is to change the way you see rejection. Rejection can sometimes feel like this big ugly ball of humiliation. A reassertion of what you lack. However if you see it as more of a friend than a foe, the way you interpret it changes as well. You see life achievement is incremental. To learn how to walk, you first need to fall a few times i.e. you need to learn how not to do something before you finally learn how to actually do it. According to this post about the life of Thomas Edison: When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.” “Great success is built on failure, frustration, even catastrophy.” Therefore when looking at rejection – see it as one door closing so that another one can more suitable can open and show you the way.
What are some of the methods you use for overcoming fear of rejection. Let us know in the comments section below. We would love to hear from you.
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